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JDRF Gala and Oliver’s Story
by
Cheryl Farrell
April
2007
Here are
a few facts about Oliver Roman. He’s a sensitive, soft-spoken 11-year-old with a bright smile. He’s
fascinated with cars and basketball. He has caring friends and is a good student. He and his family enjoy adventurous vacations
together. They frequent Winter X Games in Aspen and ride motor bikes. Oliver scuba dives in Hawaii. Oliver has type 1 diabetes.
It was during
an October 2005 family vacation in Hawaii that Oliver’s
symptoms became apparent. His father Joel, a William Morris Music VP, noticed that his son “wasn’t feeling one
hundred percent.” Weeks prior, Oliver’s weight dropped about 10 pounds. His dad thought it was typical of his
son’s growth history—a slender child with a tendency to grow in spurts. However, the loss of appetite was accompanied
by constant thirst and urination, frequent naps, and fruity smelling breath. In hindsight, Joel sees these as clear warning
signs.
Returning
from vacation, Oliver was literally carried into the doctor’s office because he was so weak. His pediatrician diagnosed
the flu and suggested Oliver be brought back in a week if the symptoms persisted. It didn’t take a week. The next morning
Oliver “couldn’t get out of bed,” according to Joel.
Oliver was
again carried to the doctor’s office, but this time, the physician’s partner was on call. This doctor was immediately
suspect of Oliver’s symptoms because her spouse has type 1 diabetes. She quickly ran a blood test to confirm her suspicions.
With a glucose level of 480 (normal is in the low 100’s), Oliver was rushed to the emergency room and stayed in the
Intensive Care Unit for four days.
Often confused with adult onset diabetes (or type 2), type 1 diabetes is an autoimmune disease which strikes children
suddenly. It is not triggered by obesity, as is often the case with the more commonly known version. Type 1 requires multiple
injections of insulin daily or a continuous infusion of insulin through a pump.
Joel
“co-parents” Oliver with his mother, Tami. With shared custody, both parents support their son in their own way,
according to Joel. As a single dad with a demanding schedule, and Oliver’s health challenges, his life can be extremely
complicated. He makes it work with the help of an extended family and his employer. Here’s what Joel has to say about
his life's juggling act and his willingness to do it.
Farrell:
What was life like shortly after Oliver was diagnosed?
Roman:
At the hospital, we were set up with a nutritionist and other specialists. At first
things were overwhelming and frightening—a scary place to be. JDRF [Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation] outreach
was helpful, but you don’t know what questions to ask or where you need help. Media images of diabetes didn’t
help me know what to look for. It took a beat to adjust, but we did.
Farrell: Who
is in your support network, and how do they help Oliver these days?
Roman:
It takes all of us—Oliver’s mother, grandparents, his sister Emily, even
his teachers—to make sense of the numbers and calculations. We all had to learn what signs to look for if Oliver got
into trouble [with his glucose readings]. I supervise his injections when he’s at home with me. His sister is fourteen
and she helps during the in-between hours after school. His grandparents provide back-up for glucose testing throughout the
day. Thanks to technology, if I have to be out of the office with Oliver, I can stay in touch with my clients and associates.
They understand the priority I have for my children.
Farrell:
How is Oliver doing fifteen months into this new way of life?
Roman: Oliver doesn’t tend to sneak foods—if he does, he doesn’t feel good.
He’s aware of what he needs to do. At first it was an issue, but now he sees it as normal for his life. For now he’s on injections, but
we are planning to go on the [insulin] pump this summer.
Farrell: What
about sleepovers and his friends?
Roman: Sleepovers can be tricky—he gets an injection at 9PM and again at 7:30AM, so we
have to work around that. It should be easier with the pump. As for Oliver’s
friends, they are aware, but don’t really notice his diabetes unless he’s testing or getting a shot. They say,
“That’s just Oliver and what he has to do.” Oliver is proud
to show how he tests his blood levels and explains what he has to do and what it all means.
Farrell: How
did Oliver’s diagnosis shift your priorities?
Roman:
My priority has always been my children—type 1 did not create that priority.
Now the focus is on how things are done. There are lots of horrible diseases, but this one is manageable. I’m
amazed at how diabetes defines who children become—it defines their character and how they choose healthier choices.
I believe in allowing kids to be kids and at the same time, hold on to their health. There was a shift in the time I gave
to certain charities. Before Oliver’s diagnosis, I was active with the City of Hope,
Race to Cure MS, and the Dream Foundation. While I still support them, my primary focus is now on JDRF.
Farrell: Given
your life these days, what advice would you give to protégées about setting priorities?
Roman:
It’s the same as before Oliver’s diagnosis: life can change in a moment.
Farrell: Pardon
me while I channel Barbara Walters, but if you could grant one wish for Oliver, what would it be?
Roman:
Oliver once said how sorry he was that I always had to test [his blood levels] and
do so much for him. I told him, “Your mother and I feel honored to be the people to care for you.” It’s a privilege to participate in the day-to-day management of his health. My wish for both of my
children is long and healthy lives. They are not mutually exclusive. Type 1 is
what it is—I tell Oliver to take his and own it.
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The Roman
family and millions of others deal with type 1 diabetes with courage, resilience, and faith that a cure will be found soon.
Insulin is not a cure. The JDRF holds an annual gala to raise funds for research to finding a cure. (See box.)
2007 GalaTribute
Finding A Cure: A Love Story
The
Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation (JDRF) will hold its fourth annual Gala Tribute at the Beverly Hilton Hotel on May 24, 2007. The JDRF Los
Angeles Chapter honors special people doing remarkable deeds in addition to raising significant funds
for stem cell research. In the past three years, honorees were Former First Lady, Nancy Reagan, Barbara Davis, Dana Reeve
and Garth Brooks,
with participants Robin Williams, Dustin Hoffman, Michael J. Fox and Trisha Yearwood.
The 2007 Angel Award recipient will be Mr. George
Schlatter for his leadership in the entertainment industry and for his ongoing support of JDRF. Mrs. Natalie and Mr. Paul
Ofalea will be honored as Caregiver Recipients for their work through the Orfalea Family Foundation that has helped so many
children in the areas of health and education.
Please
plan to attend this important event and help to make the promise of stem cell research a reality. For more information, call
the JDRF Los Angeles: 213-233-9901.